What Do You Appreciate?

What Do You Appreciate?

Do you journal?

If you do, why not make it a habit to write down 1-3 things about your husband that you appreciate. It’s a small thing to add to your time of writing and introspection, but it’s impact on your heart and marriage can be amazing. (Be sure to voice some of what you write. We all need to hear words of blessing.)

Appreciation can make a day – even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.  Margaret Cousins

The Generous Wife

http://www.the-generous-wife.com/

Your Wife's Value

"Everyone needs to feel that they have value. It is like a plant needing water, it provides the means for the plant to grow. The same is true of your wife. You are the water in her life! Does she know how much you value her? Your wife will start to dry up without that knowledge."

~Husband

Simple but meaningful

Men-
Tell her you love her in your own unique way. That's all it takes and that's what she needs to know.
Just one scribbled sentence on a piece of paper will mean everything to her.
Try it, then step back and watch her smile and react.

See the best in others

There is always good for us to see in others. Someone has said that we see what we are looking for. If we look for the weaknesses of others, we will surely find it, just as we can find that same weakness within ourselves. However, if we look for the best in others, we will also see that. Scripture tells us “do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others” (Philippians 2:4). Seek to help out a mate, a friend, perhaps even a stranger. They need your help and need you to see the best in them.

~ Dr. David Hawkins

Genuine Actions

What's do you do that you know is against your husband...or 

better yet, against God's design???

Let's be honest with ourselves.

Do you speak badly of him to others?

Do you go against his wishes when you know they are only there to benefit

you both?

Are you disrespectful?

Maybe you nag him all the time.....

Ladies, when we do things that are against our husbands, whether it be 

verbal or our actions, we are telling him that he doesn't matter and 

we don't care. That in turn says the same thing to God. God created 

us to be our husband's helper not someone that hurts and/or disrespects him. 

An apology is nice but only if it's followed by genuine actions. We need

to show our husbands that we are truly sorry and have ask for forgiveness

from God. We have to build that trust and be careful not to break it but 

if we do it is up to us to make sure we do everything in our power to 

correct it. 

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a 

quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 21:9 and 25:24(NIV)

Also read: 

Proverbs 27:15

Proverbs 19:13

Proverbs 12:4 

Proverbs 31:10-31

Let's strive to be a Proverbs 31 Wife not a disgraceful one.

Temptation will come to even the most spiritual among us, but the wife 

who holds fast to her noble character will bring glory to God and 

blessings to her husband and herself. ~James Dobson

Real Marriage: The Respectful Wife - Mark Driscoll

http://www.youtube.com/v/ZGoRCfffTYg?autohide=1&version=3&attribution_tag=I2CgrNAqwoWj0yYZc2YtfA&autoplay=1&autohide=1&showinfo=1&feature=share

Ladies, The above link will help you understand the positive effects of being respectful. It will also explain to you the damage you are causing by being disrespectful. Make God happy, not Satan.

Enjoy the video.

~Wife

How to S.H.O.W. love to your wife – Part 3

We have been discussing the acronym S.H.O.W. and how it plays into planning days off and weekends to spend time with your spouse. The first part was “S”imple and it is very important in showing your spouse that you love them. The next letter is “H”. This stands for honest. The third letter, "O", in my opinion is the most important step. You can keep things simple and honest but if you are not open to changing the plan, your event could go from good to bad in an instant. Every man has had this happen to them from their first date with a girl to last weekend with their wife of 20 years. You plan on doing something and because of some unforeseen problem, your plans go right out the door. Sometimes it even turns into a fight. I believe this is the devil getting in the way of a couples happiness. If he can get a loving couple to argue...he wins every time. 

1 Peter 5:8 (NIV)

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

This is where being "OPEN" comes in to play. The devil will attack you and try to stop your happiness. Being open to change is the way to beat him. If your plans fall through, weather hits, time delays, traffic, headaches, or whatever happens always remember that the main goal of showing your wife love is spending time together not what your actual plan was. For example, your romantic dinner and movie, is not about the dinner and the movie. It is about spending quality time together. So if there is an auto accident and you miss half the movie, is that what the night was about in the first place? Trust me, your wife wants to spend time with you. It is not what you are doing, it is doing them together that is most important. 

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