The 5 Second Rule

All of us have heard this saying coming from our parents more than once. "Be careful what you say", "Think before you speak", or "Are you sure you want to say that?" Just like me, there are probably a long list of things you said that you wish you could take back. Even saying that you are sorry doesn't always make you fell better and you can tell that the other person was hurt with what you said. They may even accept your apologize but will always remember that you hurt them. I understand that in the heat of the moment, with your emotions running high, your brain tells you it is OK to say what you are thinking. I want to remind you that is not.

Psalm 141:3

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.

The Psalm writer was very direct in this verse as should everyone. When you are about to speak to your wife, husband, children, co-worker, or a stranger in the airport, the most important thing you should remember is will this hurt? The answer to that question could save everyone some regret and hardships. Especially in your marriage, you must always think closely about what you are about to say. A small joke or a tease can turn into a huge argument. One lesson I learned from public speaking is whenever you are asked a question, you have to wait at least 5 seconds before you answer. The reason is that it gives your brain time to truly understand and compose a proper response. Try this next time you are going to say something to your spouse. Take a 5 second pause and just think. You will be amazed at the result.

~Husband